Subject: Seeking Clarity About Christopher's Feelings Toward Me Hello, My name is Vernita, and I was born on January 30, 1993. I'm reaching out because I would like a reading about a man named - question #19540

You're in a love triangle. He has erotic desires about you, and he considers you a strong, beautiful woman. There are secrets in your relationship; you're not completely open with each other. The most accurate reading with your photo, we can see more about your future with him.

Welcome dear how are you I feel that your connection with Chris carries a strong physical spark, but there is also a complicated emotional layer that deserves a closer look. His true feelings become clearer when we examine the difference between his attraction and his willingness to build closeness.The way Chris behaved during those early encounters suggests that he noticed you and enjoyed the chemistry between you. 💕 The important question now is whether that attraction has grown into genuine emotional care, something his consistent actions can help reveal.Vernita, you seem to have awakened a strong attraction in Chris, but he has also repeatedly expressed that he prefers to keep relationships casual. Understanding that contradiction helps you see the connection more clearly without questioning your own worth.Your story shows a connection filled with chemistry, curiosity, and mixed signals. Chris may enjoy being close to you, but emotional intimacy requires a willingness to communicate that goes beyond physical attraction.Vernita, the attraction you experienced was not something you imagined simply because you wanted it to be real.His flirtation and direct expressions of desire support that attraction, while his deeper emotional intentions remain something his behavior must clarify.I can understand why Chris leaves you wondering what is happening beneath the surface. The connection has moments of warmth, but the distance between those moments makes it important to look at what he consistently offers you.There is a noticeable contrast between the playful man you first encountered and the man who struggles with communication.That contrast may reflect his personal preferences or emotional boundaries, but it does not automatically mean he is secretly in love.Vernita, your energy in this story comes across as affectionate, observant, and emotionally honest.You want to understand Chris rather than force him into a relationship, and that is an important distinction.The chemistry between you and Chris appears to have been present from the beginning. But your heart deserves clarity about whether he values you beyond the moments when physical intimacy is involved.What stands out most is that Chris has continued to show physical interest while resisting the communication you requested.That difference is the key to understanding his current approach to your connection.you come across as a woman who notices the little details, remembers meaningful moments, and wants honesty from someone she allows into her personal space.Chris may recognize your directness, even when he does not respond to it the way you hope.The cards you pulled can symbolize conflict, insecurity, emotional tension, and communication difficulties.They do not prove that Chris sees you negatively; they may also reflect the frustration you have experienced in this connection.The Empress reversed can invite reflection on whether you have been giving too much attention to someone who offers limited reassurance in return.Your value remains unchanged, regardless of whether Chris knows how to appreciate your emotional needs.The Queen of Cups reversed can represent feelings that have become difficult to manage after repeated disappointment.It encourages you to honor your sensitivity without assuming that Chris interprets your emotions in the same way you do.The Five of Swords highlights tension, misunderstandings, and words that leave emotional marks. It fits the conflict between you and Chris, but it cannot establish that he secretly regrets everything or holds a negative opinion of you.The Knight of Swords reversed points toward frustrating communication and conversations that never reach a satisfying conclusion.You deserve communication that brings clarity rather than leaving you to decode silence.Vernita, speaking up when something hurts you does not make you difficult or unlovable. You expressed that you wanted basic consideration, and that is a reasonable desire in any connection.Chris may see you as someone who is willing to challenge behavior that does not feel right to you. That can create tension between two people with different expectations, but it does not mean there is something wrong with your personality.Your warmth and your boundaries can exist together beautifully. You can enjoy a connection with someone while still expecting respect, honesty, and consideration from them.I would not interpret those four cards as a final judgment of how Chris sees you.Instead, they invite a deeper look at the unresolved tension, your emotional needs, and the communication patterns that have developed between you.Chris has directly told you that he is not looking for a conventional relationship and does not want regular texting. His own words suggest that maintaining independence and emotional distance is important to him.His past relationship experiences and family concerns may affect how much emotional energy he wants to invest in another connection.However, only Chris can explain exactly why he keeps his distance.Sometimes two people can share powerful chemistry while wanting very different levels of emotional involvement.Your story suggests that this difference may be one of the main reasons you feel confused about him.Chris's reluctance to communicate does not mean you are asking for too much by wanting a simple message.It means you may have different expectations about what intimacy should include.you have tried to understand his circumstances and give him room to be himself. Remember that understanding someone else's difficulties does not require you to ignore the way their behavior affects you.His feelings for another woman, if that is still his situation, are also important to consider. You deserve to understand whether he is emotionally available rather than having to compete with an uncertain situation.Chris may prefer the simplicity of a casual connection because it asks less of him emotionally. That possibility deserves consideration alongside the attraction you have experienced.The fact that he can be warm in person but distant over text suggests that he is more comfortable with certain forms of closeness than others. It does not, by itself, reveal whether he is hiding deeper feelings.the most revealing part of this situation is not simply whether Chris desires you, but whether he respects your emotional boundaries. That distinction helps you understand what this connection genuinely offers.You do not need to solve every mystery in Chris's heart to recognize what you need from him. A connection feels healthier when both people can express their expectations without fear of being dismissed.Look, my dear, the best outcome is whether someone respects you.So I can see that he both respects you and feels a strong attraction towards you.I'm glad you asked me the question and most of all I'm glad I gave you some good insight.I'm sure you'll like my insight.May God bless you always.Goodbye.

Hello Vernita,Thank you for sharing your story with me so openly and explaining the history of your connection with Chris in such detail. As I read through your experiences, I can understand why you feel confused about his true feelings. There has been clear physical chemistry, flirtation, moments of apparent warmth, and an intimate connection between you. At the same time, there has been emotional distance, inconsistent communication, and behavior that has understandably left you questioning whether he genuinely values you as a person or primarily enjoys the physical side of your relationship. Looking at your situation through the symbolism of your tarot cards and the patterns you have described, I feel the most important theme is the difference between attraction and emotional availability. Chris may experience attraction and some degree of personal fondness toward you, but those feelings do not necessarily mean that he wants to build a deeper emotional connection. From the beginning, he gave you indications that he preferred keeping relationships casual. His flirtation, his messages telling you that he liked you, and his willingness to become intimate suggest that he was attracted to you and enjoyed the chemistry between you. However, when you began discussing affection, communication, or the possibility of emotional attachment, he seemed much more hesitant. This contrast is significant because it suggests that he may be comfortable enjoying the connection as long as it remains within boundaries that suit him. I would not interpret his behavior as proof that he feels absolutely nothing for you, but I would also be careful not to assume that he is secretly experiencing deep romantic feelings that he is simply afraid to admit. His actual behavior gives us a clearer understanding of what he is willing to offer than his attraction alone can provide. When I consider the four cards you pulled about his perception of your personality, the Five of Swords, the Empress reversed, the Queen of Cups reversed, and the Knight of Swords reversed, I see a strong symbolic theme of tension, emotional disappointment, defensiveness, and communication difficulties. The Five of Swords can represent disagreements, wounded pride, and situations in which two people struggle to understand one another. Chris may associate certain interactions between you with conflict, especially when you express hurt or challenge his treatment of you. However, this does not mean that he necessarily views you as a bad person. It may simply indicate that your connection has developed a pattern in which you seek answers and he responds by creating distance. The Empress reversed brings attention to the experience of feeling underappreciated or questioning your own value when affection is not reciprocated. You have explained that you were not demanding a committed relationship; you simply wanted some communication between visits. When even that request was rejected, it understandably caused you to wonder why he was comfortable being physically intimate but reluctant to show interest in your everyday life. This card encourages you to protect your self-worth and avoid measuring your desirability by the amount of attention Chris chooses to give you. The Queen of Cups reversed represents emotional sensitivity, disappointment, and the difficulty of maintaining inner peace when another person's behavior remains uncertain. It may reflect how much emotional energy you have invested in trying to understand Chris's intentions. You may find yourself analyzing his words, remembering affectionate moments, and wondering whether there is a deeper meaning behind his actions. The Knight of Swords reversed adds another layer, representing poorly handled conversations, impulsive words, defensiveness, and unresolved misunderstandings. This symbolism fits particularly well with the incident in which Chris told you that he had said what he said because he wanted to get rid of you. His statement was understandably hurtful, especially because he did not subsequently offer the apology you hoped for. These cards do not prove that Chris privately thinks negatively about your personality. Instead, they suggest that tension and unmet expectations have become part of the relationship, and that you may need to consider how much longer you want to remain in a situation that repeatedly leaves you feeling uncertain. Regarding whether Chris genuinely enjoys your company or primarily sees you as a sexual connection, I believe there may be some personal comfort and familiarity between you beyond physical attraction. You have shared experiences, conversations, and a history that could naturally create a degree of fondness. Nevertheless, enjoying someone's company does not automatically mean wanting emotional closeness or a relationship. The strongest evidence in your story is that Chris has continued to participate in physical intimacy while declining the communication you requested. This suggests that the physical side of the connection may be more important to him than maintaining an ongoing emotional bond. It does not mean that every interaction between you was meaningless, nor does it establish that he has no affection for you. It simply means that his actions have not demonstrated the level of emotional investment you are trying to understand. His personal circumstances may also play a role. He has spoken about painful experiences involving his former marriage and his daughter, and he has told you that he has feelings for another woman who is experiencing an abusive situation. These circumstances may complicate his emotional availability, priorities, or willingness to become involved in another emotionally demanding connection. However, we cannot know whether these experiences explain his behavior or whether he simply prefers a casual arrangement. It is important not to assume that his past difficulties mean he secretly wants something deeper with you. Sometimes people have complicated personal lives and genuinely cannot offer much emotionally; sometimes they simply do not want the same type of connection that another person wants. In Chris's case, his own statements and repeated choices suggest that he prefers keeping the relationship limited. When you called him “boo,” he expressed concern about what that might imply because the two of you were not in a relationship. When you asked for occasional messages, he declined. These moments suggest that he may be uncomfortable with expectations that make the connection feel more emotionally involved. Whether that discomfort comes from his past experiences, his personal preferences, or a lack of deeper romantic interest cannot be established with certainty. What is clear is that you have communicated your needs, and he has not shown much willingness to meet them. The incident after intimacy, when he told you that he had wanted to get rid of you, deserves particular attention. His words suggest that he intended to create distance at that moment, although we cannot know every reason behind his decision. It is understandable that you would wonder whether he regrets hurting you. He may have experienced regret, discomfort, or mixed feelings afterward, but there is no reliable way to determine his private emotional response from the information available. His later willingness to be intimate again does not necessarily mean that he regretted his words or wanted to repair the emotional damage. There is a difference between wanting to continue a physical connection and taking responsibility for hurting someone. Based on your account, he has not clearly acknowledged the pain he caused or offered the apology you needed. I would encourage you to pay attention to that distinction rather than waiting for an unspoken feeling of regret to become the answer you need. You also asked whether Chris thinks about you when you are apart. Given your history, the attraction, and the fact that your encounters have continued over time, it is certainly possible that he remembers you or occasionally thinks about your connection. However, we cannot determine how frequently he thinks about you or whether those thoughts involve emotional longing, physical desire, curiosity, or simple familiarity. Thinking about someone and choosing to invest in them are two different things. Even if he remembers you between visits, the more meaningful question is whether he chooses to communicate, show consideration, and treat you with consistency. His actions would offer much stronger evidence of his intentions than any attempt to guess what is happening privately in his mind. As for the future of your connection, I believe a more respectful dynamic is possible only if both of you are willing to participate in creating it. You have already explained that you do not necessarily require a serious relationship, but you do want basic communication and considerate treatment. Those are reasonable things to want, even in a casual arrangement. If Chris is unwilling to provide them, you may eventually need to decide whether continuing the connection is genuinely satisfying for you. You do not have to demand commitment to establish boundaries, and you do not have to accept hurtful treatment simply because the relationship is not exclusive. If you choose to continue seeing him, allow his consistent behavior to show you whether he can respect your feelings and communicate more openly. If the same pattern continues, stepping back would not mean that you misunderstood the connection or failed to make him care. It would mean that you recognized the difference between what you hoped the relationship might become and what he was actually willing to offer. My overall interpretation is that Chris has demonstrated genuine physical attraction, and there may be some degree of personal fondness, but the available evidence does not establish a deeper emotional commitment. He may enjoy your presence while still preferring to keep the connection casual and emotionally limited. Your tarot cards emphasize the emotional strain, unresolved conflict, and communication problems surrounding this situation rather than providing definite proof of his hidden feelings. Vernita, I want you to remember that you do not need to discover every private thought in Chris's mind before deciding what is right for you. You can acknowledge the chemistry you shared without assuming that it means the same thing to him. You can understand that he has personal difficulties without taking responsibility for resolving them. And you can care about someone while still recognizing that their current behavior does not give you the clarity or consideration you need. The most important message I would leave you with is this: do not allow uncertainty about Chris's feelings to become uncertainty about your own worth. If he genuinely wants a more caring connection, he has the opportunity to demonstrate that through respectful communication, accountability, and consistent actions. Until then, protect your peace, trust what his behavior is showing you, and remember that you deserve to feel valued as a person, not only desired physically. I hope this reading helps you understand the situation more clearly and gives you the confidence to make decisions that honor your emotional well-being. Thank you for trusting me with your story, Vernita, and I wish you clarity, peace, and happiness moving forward.

Vernita.You and Christopher are two halves of a whole,and he is the man who walks alongside you on your path,the man with whom you can 'be together and build a family..In truth,,he loves you with a sincere love ,and you are in his heart ,and you alone,right now,despite the fact that everything in his past life is a  mess.But there's you and your positive attitude toward him .He truly loves you as a woman, as a person, and as a strong individual.Knowing his character,he wouldn't have gotten close to you  if he didn't like you ,but he does like you. And he's drawn to you. Yes ,he really enjoys your company .And he likes you, too .But those negative emotions he experienced in his past still weigh on him, and sometimes you can see it in what he says. But don't worry, that's just his past pain. And it'll pass soon .He's not going anywhere. This is true love .But he's afraid of it,afraid of getting hurt again,like he was in past relationships.And he needs time to calm down and realize that your're his destiny and that only with you will he be happy.He's not trying to get rid of you.He's trying to figure out what's happening to him right now.And his thoughts are constantly on you and  on himself.Yes, he thinks about you all the time.And the connection that exists between you two right now,that connection comes from above.It's destiny.And by destiny,you and he are meant for each other as a couple and as husband and wife.

Hello, Vernita.
You asked for an honest and detailed reading without any sugarcoating. To understand what is happening, it is important for you to stop searching for hidden romantic meanings where a man's actions clearly speak otherwise.
Your BaZi astrological charts and the Tarot cards you pulled show two completely different energies that cannot form a harmonious union.
Who is Chris and why does he behave this way? I will explain based on his astrological chart. Chris represents the Yin Water element on a Goat. His chart contains a direct, harsh clash of elements in his House of Marriage and the Yang Blade indicator. He is a person with a completely destroyed emotional resource who is very selfish in personal connections. He initially chose a format where he does not have to be responsible for anything. To him, you are an attractive woman with whom it is pleasant to spend time once a month. But as soon as the meeting ends, he literally turns off the contact. He has no resource for emotional warmth, and he cannot give you any warmth at all.
Regarding your Tarot spread – 5 of Swords, The Empress reversed, Queen of Cups reversed, Knight of Swords reversed. These cards do not mean that he considers you bad. They show how he perceives your attempts to get closer. The Empress reversed and Queen of Cups reversed indicate that he senses your inner thirst for attention and emotional vulnerability. He understands that you want care from him, which he directly refused to give, and this forces him to close off and show coldness. And the 5 of Swords and Knight of Swords reversed show that his phrase about wanting to get rid of you was not an accident. It was a manipulative strike to build a wall and force you to step back. The fact that he later agreed to intimacy again without apologizing shows and proves that he takes physical contact as long as you open that door yourself, but he will never take responsibility for your feelings.
Vernita, why are you stuck in this, and what is your path to liberation? You were born on a Yin Metal day on a Pig. You are a sensitive, deep woman with a huge supply of giving. In your BaZi chart, the Element of the Man (Fire) is hidden, which is why it can be difficult for you to read the true motives of partners, and you agree to less, trying to warm up those whose well is empty.
You and Chris are absolutely not a match. You are spending your precious energy on a person who uses you as a convenient outlet.

In 2026–2027, a strong Element of the Man enters your chart. Doors are opening for you to meet a completely different partner — a mature, high-status, open man who will respect you, court you, and text «how are you» every day without your asking. But for this meeting to happen, your space must be free. As long as Chris is in your heart and in your bedroom, new quality relationships will never be able to enter – please hear me.

Think about changing your service technician or pest control company if possible, or do not be alone during his visits, but present with loved ones. Stop opening up to intimacy with a person who has devalued you.

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You deserve to be the one and only, loved, and not just an item in a work schedule once a month.

Vernita, I sense that Chris feels a genuine physical attraction toward you, and there may also be a degree of fondness and curiosity that he does not openly express. However, his actions suggest that he prefers keeping this connection on his own terms rather than allowing it to develop into something emotionally demanding. The cards you pulled, especially the Five of Swords and the reversed Queen of Cups, point symbolically toward tension, hurt feelings, and misunderstandings between you. He may see you as a woman who is passionate, caring, and emotionally perceptive, but who is also willing to speak up when she feels disrespected. His reluctance to communicate, along with his statement that he wanted to get rid of you, suggests that he was willing to push you away rather than address the situation honestly. He may think about you when you're apart, particularly because of your physical chemistry and shared history, but that does not necessarily mean he wants a deeper relationship. His complicated personal circumstances and feelings for another woman may contribute to his distance, although only Chris can explain his true motives. I would not assume that he feels nothing for you, but I also would not interpret attraction as proof of hidden love or regret. There is potential for a warmer and more respectful connection if both of you are willing to communicate honestly, yet the most important thing is to watch his consistent actions rather than search for unspoken feelings. You deserve a connection in which your feelings and boundaries are respected, whether it remains casual or becomes something more.