I feel my ex gf Ary will not experience personal growth at the speed I am hoping because I am not certain her will is entirely there. In a way I almost feel it is breaking up with her which will - question #19412

somewhat ignite the desire to change. I am beginning to feel as though she cannot give me the family I want and it is my other ex gf Cassie who is a better fit for me. Cassie has issues to work on as well however I feel she is closer to succeeding than Ary because she is more open to change. I myself am working on my life and I feel Ary will only take me down a negative path if I am around her too often. I also feel on some level I eventually must end my friendship with Ary if I am to be with Cassie. The whole thing is painful but I think it is true. Am I correct in these assumptions? I just feel Cassie is more mature in many ways, at least in the ways I will need to be around eventually. She is not talking to me right now but I feel she will come around and I want to make th3 correct choices.