Hi, my name is Vernita (born Jan 30, 1993), and I’m involved with a man named Chris (born Feb 1, 1976). He’s older, light-skinned, quiet but intense. We met years ago when he was the exterminator at - question #8652

my building. At first, it was just quiet smiles and tension, but eventually we connected and started sleeping together — several times. He rarely reaches out unless I’m out enjoying myself, like the time I went to a Chris Brown concert and he suddenly texted me something sexual. He’s hot and cold, and I don’t know where I stand with him. I’ve told him I’m in love, but he hasn’t really said it back. My current partner Sievon (born Feb 23, 1995) suspects something — he asked if I slept with Chris, and I lied. He also made a comment about me being Black, implying Chris wouldn’t want me. It hurt. I’ve asked the universe for clarity and even said, “If Chris and I are meant to be, break me and Sievon up.” Things have been falling apart since. Does Chris love me? Do we have a future, or am I holding onto something that isn’t real?