I just put a pause on my relationship w my gf Anita 8 20 96 and when i told her that, she never responded at all or acknowledged what i said. Suddenly, unprovoked, she decides to come visit- when - question #3397

over the past few days it had been like pulling teeth. I had decided i needed more of my energy during this transitional phase in life and i couldnt be a great influence on her as im managing my mental health and i get concerned over my angry reactions to some of her behavior which i consider inconsiderate and self inflated. I felt beyond that sometimes my cynacism was bleeding into my interactions with her and i would project dark situations that werent even occuring onto her communication to me, which makes me feel as though im not in control and my subconscious issues are coloring my experiences negatively. So for those reasons i said i wanted a break. Suddenly she has gifts for me, time for me. But then i feel i got roped in again and i offered her to come by. She makes some excuse about coming says she will call me back and doesnt. What can even be done about this disharmony? When will she gain true respect from others? I want to have good relations to people and i feel her cavalier attitude towards people, myself included is dismissive, but why is it when i pull back from her she tries to reassert herself and then only hours later when i give her any attention she is distant again? How can i reconcile this situation peacefully? I think she knows i love her but i feel the need to show her i mean business.what to do? I just want to feel respectes, and valued.