My partner Anita 8-20-96 feels genuine in her love towards me despite our conflicts that occasionally arise. She has said she wants to marry me, yet has changed the status of our relationship like 3 - question #3385

times. Is she just mentally fickle, like allows the idea to occasionally overwhelm her, but her heart is in it? I want to know is she serious with me, and how i can improve things between us. She recently said she ' didnt know we were still in a relationship like that and thought we were going with the flow' so i felt the need ( or impulse ) to match her and say ' let's see how you like that, if we are not together and i see other people ' and although i dont really want to, i would just to make a point. I know it seems drastic but some personalities may need that. Did i make a poor decision? I cant have her thinking i have no options and she can just do whatever she wants when she wants. I just want to feel valued.