Will Jordan Valderaz ever start treating me good? He is in the u.s. army and he treats me like I am at boot camp. Since the day we met. As a boyfriend he has been more like the drill sergeant in Full - question #2945

He will always have such a strict attitude. It only seems that way outwardly. Internally, he treats you better. We need to understand his character.

There is hope.Jordan Valderas will treat you better,but when he himself understands that the people around him, including you.,are not a soldier,but a person who treats him with tenderness and kindness.

Relationships with a boss-subordinate dynamic are rarely healthy. This is especially true if the behavior becomes a pattern. In the case of Jordan, whose military service may have affected his communication style, it is important to understand the motives behind his authoritarianism. It may be insecurity, fear of losing control, or not knowing other ways to express feelings.

To improve the situation, discuss your feelings with Jordan. Use «I» statements to avoid blaming. For example, instead of «You boss me around!» say, «I feel uncomfortable when you give orders.» Explain the importance of respect, compromise, and equality.

If Jordan acknowledges the problem, work on changing his behavior. This may require professional help. If he is not ready to change, consider the future of the relationship. Your happiness and well-being are more important than a relationship with a disrespectful partner.

Hello, yes, there will be an improvement

Jordan's military service certainly affects his personality and communication style. The military teaches discipline, precision, and the ability to give orders. But that doesn't excuse his behavior toward you. Relationships should be built on mutual respect, support, and love, not on submission and control. If you clearly define what behavior you will not tolerate, there will be hope.